Create a New Vision

If we can imagine something it increases the chances of us implementing it. If we focus on how we would like our relationship to be that is what grows, instead of focusing on what isn't working. When you each imagine the qualities that are most important for your relationship and then combine the vision into common goals that are made conscious, they will have twice the power than if they were imagined alone.

To start make the list short with the 3 to 5 ideas of what you most value and then you and your partner combine your lists for a vision of your relationship that functions like a roadmap into the future.

Use the present tense as if these qualities already existed such as:

We are truthful with each other.

We have a satisfying sexual relationship.

We resolve our differences/conflicts quickly and peacefully.

We ask for time when we have a concern.

We feel that our concerns are heard and understood.

If you are experiencing difficulty around a certain issue, try writing how your relationship would be re-visioned if this issue where able to be handled in a comfortable and effective way.